In the spring of 2012, I asked my wonderful husband to build me a raised garden bed. Surprisingly, he agreed! He did an amazing job building it! BUT…it wasn’t in the best spot. Have you ever felt like that in your spiritual walk? Like you weren’t growing in the wrong spot? We need to be in full sun in order to experience strong spiritual growth.
Where Does A Garden Grow?
Now we just had to agree on where to put it. Convincing him to actually build it for me was much easier than coming to this agreement! We had totally different ideas of where the best place was!
My suggestion was in full sun on the side of the yard.
He disagreed and thought it would be best for the garden to be under our 2 huge maple trees.
I argued that the shade would not be good for the plants. He said that he was going to put it where he thought was best…under the trees. And me, being the ever-so-wonderful submissive wife, I allowed him to place it where ever he wanted to;)
Now, I have to say that my husband is the most wonderful man on earth and our marriage is incredible. He is the smartest man I know and I fully trust him with my life. Arguing about where to put a garden bed wasn’t worth me proving I was right. And besides, I knew that if I was right, time would reveal the truth.
Lessons In Being A Submissive Wife
Anyway, the garden bed was placed under the trees, in full shade. Then came time to get soil and fill it. He went a got a load of dirt that only filled the garden bed half full. I knew it wasn’t enough, but he said that was all he was going to get for it. I was getting a lot of experience being the submissive wife right about that time!
I planted various things – lettuce, carrots, spinach, mint, strawberries, brussels sprouts, etc. The lettuce grew wonderfully, as did the mint! Everything else either shot straight up and just went to seed or simply did not grow. The trees sucked up so much water! There was too much shade! Not enough soil. My hubby was beginning to realize that maybe the garden was in the wrong spot.
Just maybe. But “we” would need one more attempt in this location just to be sure.
Spring rolls around again and I desperately want a garden! He won’t move it just yet. He wants to give it another try.
Let’s Try It One More Time
I plant tomatoes, brussels sprouts, carrots, lettuce, broccoli, etc. I prayed that the plants would grow. But…yet again, nothing grew. The roots from the trees had invaded the entire garden! It was then that I decided to do a little comparison experiment. I planted some squash and tomatoes in huge planters and put them in full sun. They grew like crazy!
My hubby finally digressed and fully realized the error of his ways. We decided to transplant the very large squash plants in the back yard…in full sun. As we are digging, he said, “This is awesome dirt! This would be the best spot for a garden!”
I agreed. That WAS the BEST spot!
I decided to try and salvage what I could from my shady garden. I dug up the soil in the back, preparing it for the plants. I dug up the plants in the garden, which was very easy to do since they did not take root – the tree roots were too strong and too many.
Life Is Like A Garden
As I began to replant my plants, God showed me how our lives are like a garden. Even though I prayed my garden would grow, it could not because it was in the wrong spot.
It did not get enough sun.
The trees sucked up most of the water.
There wasn’t enough soil.
The tree roots were overtaking the garden.
Everything about it was wrong.
I realized that we can pray all we want, but if we are not where God wants us to be, we will not grow, we will not produce good fruit.
If we are not fully in the Son, we can’t grow. We won’t grow without the Son.
I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing. John 15:5
If there is something in our lives that is sucking the life giving water from us, we won’t grow.
If we aren’t grounded in enough good soil for nutrients (God’s Word), we will not have strong roots.
If foreign roots are invading our hearts, we will not produce good fruit.
We can pray all we want for God’s blessings, for His provision, for His protection, for Him to work things out for us. BUT, if we aren’t where we are supposed to be, we will NOT grow.
We need lots of good soil so our roots can go down deep.
We need to be fully in the Son.
We need to have life giving water.
We need to be in a place where those other roots and weeds cannot enter in and stay.
If you aren’t in God’s Word, in Christ Jesus, drinking from the Living Water and you are dabbling in sin, you are not in the place God wants you to be.
BTW – the plants grew nicely in their new location and hubby promised to plant next season’s garden in the same place…perks of being a submissive wife will be another post for another time. The glory of ‘being right’!! HAHA! I love my man SO MUCH! I know without a doubt that I am the queen of his heart! At least he knows when to admit he was wrong and to tell me I was right…
We laugh about this little story now. It’s great to allow God to use these silly things to teach us lessons.