Last week, I introduced the topic of spiritual bondage.  I am sharing the things that have kept me in bondage through the years.  The first topic I want to camp out on for a few weeks is LIES.  The lies we believe will keep us in bondage; especially lies about our identity.

Lies We Believe

Shame And Rejection

I am an introvert, I am quiet, I am sensitive and I was given the name ‘shy’.  People would often say things like “You have to grow thicker skin”, “You need to speak up more”, “You need to be more sociable” and so on.  I began to believe I had to be someone other than who God created me to be just so that others will be happy with me.  I would even pray that God would make me less sensitive.  

How long, O you sons of men,Will you turnIt wasn’t until several years into my healing journey that I realized that God made me quiet and sensitive for His purposes and how dare anyone shame His glory in me!  

What kinds of lies and shame have you been living under?  God wants to tell you the truth of who you really are.  Believing horrible lies brings shame.  And that shame will keep us bound up in those handcuffs.  And we stay hidden, trying to conceal our shame.  

God desires for us to reveal the beauty He has created in us.  

A Time For Healing

The last 6 months have been a huge time of healing for me.  However, I had to distance myself from a very toxic and unhealthy relationship in order for this healing to occur.  Last week, while watching my husband and daughter banter back and forth, something was said that brought a memory of my adolescence to mind.  A flashback to something very painful – hurtful comments made throughout those years.  Things said that made me feel so disliked and hated, so full of shame and major rejection.  Things I would never consider saying to my own children. 

God is so gentle when He brings these things to the surface.  Our hearts are ready to deal with them – even if it might not feel like it at the moment.  I spoke the lie out loud in front of my husband and daughter.  It just came out.  It was like I was in that memory and I just said it out loud.  My husband was shocked that such words would be said to me.  It was good to talk to him about it.  He is so good to me.   

The next day, I was listening to KLove radio online and one of the DJs, Scott, was talking about how he was having a hard time with the idea of his son going off to college.  He said it wasn’t just about his son being gone, but one of his best friends gone.  I remembered those painful comments again.  Scott’s attitude was totally different than what I had experienced.  

The day after that, I read a blog post by Mandy of Worshipful Living.  She talked about her realization that she had only 3 summers left with her daughter.  I counted the number of summers I had left with my oldest.  Just 3.  My mommy heart was overwhelmed with bittersweet sadness.  Can there be such a thing?  I don’t want her to leave!  She is one of my best friends!  Then the memory was triggered again.  Totally different from what I had experienced. 

OK, I knew then that God wanted to deal with that pain.  That night, as I was lying in bed remembering those horrible comments, the tears rolled done onto my pillow.  I asked God what he wanted me to know about that pain.  What truth did He want to show me?  Immediately I remembered a song we had listened to in the car recently, Live Like You Are Loved by Hawk Nelson.  I am loved by my Father.  He adores me.  And, so, He wants me to start living like it!  Oh, that truth brought such peace to my heart.

When He wants to deal with a lie you have believed, He wants to replace it with His truth after He uproots it.  This is so important to combating those lies.  They need to be replaced with His truth and we must meditate on that new truth.  If that means writing it out and plastering it all over your house, then go for it!  

Don’t Run From Who You Are

Have you ever strived to become someone you weren’t intended to be?  Has God bestowed a special quality within you that you grew to hold in contempt?  Something you tried to wish away? 

C.S Lewis depicts this struggle in a beautiful way.  In the movie “Voyage of the Dawntreader”, Lucy struggles with accepting her identity.  She doesn’t believe in her beauty, she doubts her value.  She wishes she was different.  Can you relate to how she is feeling?  I certainly can!  There have been many times in my life that I wished I was different.  Like longer legs, less freckles, fuller hair, less emotional, less sensitive…the list could be nearly endless if I continued to dwell on everything I am unhappy about.

In the movie (or book), Lucy is given the opportunity to change herself, to make herself more like her older sister, Susan.  Oh, the path of comparison is such a dangerous trap.  It leads us straight into bondage.   

Lucy gazes at herself in a mirror and the truth of who she is becomes distorted.  She plunges into a false reality of her identity.  Suddenly, Aslan appears and asks her: 

“Lucy…what have you done, child?” -Aslan 

“I don’t know. That was awful.” -Lucy 

“But you chose it, Lucy.” -Aslan 

“I didn’t mean to choose all of that, I just wanted to be beautiful like Susan. That’s all.” – Lucy 

“You wished yourself away.  And with it, much more. Your brothers and sister wouldn’t know Narnia without you, Lucy. You discovered it first, remember?” -Aslan 

“I’m so sorry.” -Lucy 

“You doubt your value. Don’t run from who you are.” – Aslan

Have you chosen to wish yourself away?  Have you wished you were different in a small way and in the process lost much more than you had intended to?  Have you lost the identity Christ has given to you?  Have you doubted your value so much that you have run from who you are?  Do you understand that there are people who would not know Jesus if it weren’t for you?  Are you prepared for the consequences that come with wishing yourself away? 

Psalm 139

I love how this passage is very personalized.  I love to personalize scripture when reading it.  I wonder if personalizing scriptures will help us get out of bondage and stay out.  What do you think?

Courage To Heal

We discussed two kinds of lies to our identity today.  Do you struggle with any of them?  Are you able to just start handing over to our Heavenly Father when they spring up?  That is how we start to heal, how we start to be released from those handcuffs around our wrists.  Yes, it takes courage to heal.  It takes courage to be free.  But I wouldn’t want it any other way.

I really felt the need to pray for you today with this post.  You are so loved – loved beyond measure.  Let’s leave those chains of shame and rejection at the foot of the Cross.  Then put on the new robes – robes of royalty.    

Heavenly Father, I come to You on behalf of my sisters (and brothers) who are reading this and know there are things that are hindering them from living the life You intended for them.  Please give them the courage to start healing.  To start breaking free from those things that have entangled them.  You long for them to Live like they are Loved.  Lord, help us all to live like that.

In Your precious name Jesus,

Amen.  

I also made a printable for you to put somewhere as a reminder of the work He is doing in your life.  Just click the download button and print in PDF.

Don’t Run From Who You Are

An 8×10 printable to remind you to embrace who God created you to be.  Created for my post “Lies We Believe: Part One“.

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Aimee Imbeau

Aimee is a wife to an incredible husband, Marcus, and mother to three fabulous children. She works from home as a homeschool support teacher and she homeschools her own children as well. She loves writing abut her faith and decided to give blogging a try in 2013. The rest is history...
  • Aimee, What a lovely post. I needed to read this today. I have always struggles with a low self esteem. But in the last year God has really helped me to not fear what other people think of me and be who I am. Thank you for sharing this. Glad to be a part of CBB with you too. Your blog looks awesome!

    • I am so glad God is showing truth to your heart, Valerie! He is so good, isn’t He? CBB is a wonderful group, hey? Such a blessing to be in a group of incredible, Godly women!

  • What a wonderful and encouraging post, Aimee.

    Just this morning I was reflecting on a post I’ve been working on in my brain. It’s faith-based and I started to feel insecure. Your words that you spoke previously ministered to me but then I saw this post of yours and that quote from Aslan and it was exactly what I needed.

    Thank you so much for sharing… and inspiring.

    Blessings to you my friend.
    xoxo

    • I find the that the posts I doubt the most are usually the ones I really need to publish. I am learning to just obey the prompting of the Holy Spirit through that doubt. It’s not easy. But the times I do obey, I am so glad I did. I can’t wait to read this post you are working on!! I feel excited about it!!
      I love Aslan in the Narnia series – so much truth in his character. They are kids books and movies, but I have gotten so much from them myself. Actually, my counselor suggested I read these books with my youngest to help her process her health issue – that was such a great idea!
      Let me know when you have published that post!!
      I am so glad we ‘met’ – I don’t think it was coincidence at all;)

  • Aimee, I love this so much! My dear friend, you are a treasure. Your value is priceless. You were marvelously made. And I know, without a doubt, that you were made to do mighty things for the Kingdom and today you are touching and healing hearts with your words! To God be the glory!
    Much love, Lori

    • Thank you so much Lori! I appreciate your words of encouragement and love.

  • Lisa N. Alexander

    I enjoyed your post! I’m more extrovert than introvert (I have my moments though) and remember praying that God would make me quiet and demure and mysterious. I later learned that all this personality and love of a microphone suited His purpose and I should embrace it. And embrace I did! There’s no mistake in who God made us at our core and we have to be true to that and honor that. Keep writing!

    • Lisa, it is amazing how the enemy will use lies to stop us from God’s plans regardless of whether we are introvert or extrovert! I am so happy you embraced how He made you! Do you have a blog?

  • God makes us unique and special- full of value. Wonderful post! Thanks for sharing at Women With Intention Wednesdays!

    • Thank you Jenny. He sure does make us unique and special. Each of us.

  • Oh, Aimee, what a beautiful post. I can relate to so much of what you went through, and our similarities are many.
    I’ve chosen your post as this week’s Featured over at Grace & Truth! Love you, beautiful sister!

    • Thank you so much, Jenn. I hate those lies. Even more so when I discover how many of us have believed them. We’ve been duped. But no more! That’s one reason we have our sisters in Christ – to remind each other of TRUTH!! And I need that reminder regularly!

  • Caroline Brooke

    Hi Aimee, How the Holy Spirit works through you, you are so radiant with Our Heavenly Father’s love. I needed so much to read this tonight. My heart was aching from those lies tonight. I appreciate you so much. Thank you.

    • Thank you, Caroline. Such encouraging words you have written to me here. I know that ache all too well. I will be praying for you as the Lord heals your broken heart. Keep me posted on how He is working!