Last week, I introduced the topic of spiritual bondage. I am sharing the things that have kept me in bondage through the years. The first topic I want to camp out on for a few weeks is LIES. The lies we believe will keep us in bondage; especially lies about our identity.
Shame And Rejection
I am an introvert, I am quiet, I am sensitive and I was given the name ‘shy’. People would often say things like “You have to grow thicker skin”, “You need to speak up more”, “You need to be more sociable” and so on. I began to believe I had to be someone other than who God created me to be just so that others will be happy with me. I would even pray that God would make me less sensitive.
What kinds of lies and shame have you been living under? God wants to tell you the truth of who you really are. Believing horrible lies brings shame. And that shame will keep us bound up in those handcuffs. And we stay hidden, trying to conceal our shame.
God desires for us to reveal the beauty He has created in us.
A Time For Healing
The last 6 months have been a huge time of healing for me. However, I had to distance myself from a very toxic and unhealthy relationship in order for this healing to occur. Last week, while watching my husband and daughter banter back and forth, something was said that brought a memory of my adolescence to mind. A flashback to something very painful – hurtful comments made throughout those years. Things said that made me feel so disliked and hated, so full of shame and major rejection. Things I would never consider saying to my own children.
God is so gentle when He brings these things to the surface. Our hearts are ready to deal with them – even if it might not feel like it at the moment. I spoke the lie out loud in front of my husband and daughter. It just came out. It was like I was in that memory and I just said it out loud. My husband was shocked that such words would be said to me. It was good to talk to him about it. He is so good to me.
The next day, I was listening to KLove radio online and one of the DJs, Scott, was talking about how he was having a hard time with the idea of his son going off to college. He said it wasn’t just about his son being gone, but one of his best friends gone. I remembered those painful comments again. Scott’s attitude was totally different than what I had experienced.
The day after that, I read a blog post by Mandy of Worshipful Living. She talked about her realization that she had only 3 summers left with her daughter. I counted the number of summers I had left with my oldest. Just 3. My mommy heart was overwhelmed with bittersweet sadness. Can there be such a thing? I don’t want her to leave! She is one of my best friends! Then the memory was triggered again. Totally different from what I had experienced.
OK, I knew then that God wanted to deal with that pain. That night, as I was lying in bed remembering those horrible comments, the tears rolled done onto my pillow. I asked God what he wanted me to know about that pain. What truth did He want to show me? Immediately I remembered a song we had listened to in the car recently, Live Like You Are Loved by Hawk Nelson. I am loved by my Father. He adores me. And, so, He wants me to start living like it! Oh, that truth brought such peace to my heart.
When He wants to deal with a lie you have believed, He wants to replace it with His truth after He uproots it. This is so important to combating those lies. They need to be replaced with His truth and we must meditate on that new truth. If that means writing it out and plastering it all over your house, then go for it!
Don’t Run From Who You Are
Have you ever strived to become someone you weren’t intended to be? Has God bestowed a special quality within you that you grew to hold in contempt? Something you tried to wish away?
C.S Lewis depicts this struggle in a beautiful way. In the movie “Voyage of the Dawntreader”, Lucy struggles with accepting her identity. She doesn’t believe in her beauty, she doubts her value. She wishes she was different. Can you relate to how she is feeling? I certainly can! There have been many times in my life that I wished I was different. Like longer legs, less freckles, fuller hair, less emotional, less sensitive…the list could be nearly endless if I continued to dwell on everything I am unhappy about.
In the movie (or book), Lucy is given the opportunity to change herself, to make herself more like her older sister, Susan. Oh, the path of comparison is such a dangerous trap. It leads us straight into bondage.
Lucy gazes at herself in a mirror and the truth of who she is becomes distorted. She plunges into a false reality of her identity. Suddenly, Aslan appears and asks her:
“Lucy…what have you done, child?” -Aslan
“I don’t know. That was awful.” -Lucy
“But you chose it, Lucy.” -Aslan
“I didn’t mean to choose all of that, I just wanted to be beautiful like Susan. That’s all.” – Lucy
“You wished yourself away. And with it, much more. Your brothers and sister wouldn’t know Narnia without you, Lucy. You discovered it first, remember?” -Aslan
“I’m so sorry.” -Lucy
“You doubt your value. Don’t run from who you are.” – Aslan
Have you chosen to wish yourself away? Have you wished you were different in a small way and in the process lost much more than you had intended to? Have you lost the identity Christ has given to you? Have you doubted your value so much that you have run from who you are? Do you understand that there are people who would not know Jesus if it weren’t for you? Are you prepared for the consequences that come with wishing yourself away?
I love how this passage is very personalized. I love to personalize scripture when reading it. I wonder if personalizing scriptures will help us get out of bondage and stay out. What do you think?
Courage To Heal
We discussed two kinds of lies to our identity today. Do you struggle with any of them? Are you able to just start handing over to our Heavenly Father when they spring up? That is how we start to heal, how we start to be released from those handcuffs around our wrists. Yes, it takes courage to heal. It takes courage to be free. But I wouldn’t want it any other way.
I really felt the need to pray for you today with this post. You are so loved – loved beyond measure. Let’s leave those chains of shame and rejection at the foot of the Cross. Then put on the new robes – robes of royalty.
Heavenly Father, I come to You on behalf of my sisters (and brothers) who are reading this and know there are things that are hindering them from living the life You intended for them. Please give them the courage to start healing. To start breaking free from those things that have entangled them. You long for them to Live like they are Loved. Lord, help us all to live like that.
In Your precious name Jesus,
I also made a printable for you to put somewhere as a reminder of the work He is doing in your life. Just click the download button and print in PDF.
An 8×10 printable to remind you to embrace who God created you to be. Created for my post “Lies We Believe: Part One“.
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