Valentine’s Day is coming up. This is the day my husband lovingly refers to as “our reminder to love the ones you love”. He is a bit of a Valentine Scrooge. He doesn’t like being told which day to show his love to me. OK, let’s be honest…he just doesn’t like to be told what to do;) However, I think that how a couple celebrates this day is dependent upon their love languages. For Marcus and I, both of us have the love language of quality time. We aren’t big into gifts or extravagance. We would rather just have a quiet evening together. But I wanted to share the 7 Perfect Valentine Gifts For Your Husband that I will ensure my man will be getting on this special day. Any Godly man would absolutely love these special gifts!
1. A wife who lives fully for Christ
When I love Christ passionately, I am better able to love my husband with fierce passion. I offer grace more often and more genuinely when I am living fully for Christ. And whose marriage couldn’t use more grace? I am less selfish when I am living for Christ. As I dwell in the fullness of Christ, I mature into the wife God requires me to be.
2. A wife who lives in the freedom of Christ
I am finding it to be a constant battle to live in freedom. People are unkind, life disappoints, curveballs come flying in. If I am not careful, these things will quickly bog me down. One of the best things I can do for my marriage is to stand in the freedom for which Jesus died on the cross for. Christ has made me free, and I am free indeed.
3. A wife who wears her armour
This goes hand in hand with #2. I can’t stand in freedom without wearing my armour. It is my responsibility to maintain my armour and keep it in good repair, ready at a moment’s notice. I need to make sure I have my shield of faith ready to put over Marcus if necessary. When those fiery arrows come flying in, our shields shelter us and keep us safe. There have been times when I was too wounded to lift my shield and Marcus put his over both of us. There have been times when I’ve had to do the same for him. We never know when those times will come, but they will come and we must be prepared for battle.
4. A wife who values purity within marriage
I am shocked and dismayed with the rapidly growing interest in erotica for women. I looked up some stats for the 50 Shades of Grey book series and I was appalled. And deeply grieved. Women around the world have fallen for this deficient substitute for True Love. But I don’t believe we are immune to becoming entangled in such lust and sin. If we were, the books wouldn’t be selling as they are…to Christian women. I must be purposeful and intent on keeping my marriage pure.
I almost read that book after a former friend suggested I read it. She professed to be a Christian and yet she raved about this book. So, I know how difficult it can be to turn away from such temptation, but scripture is exceedingly clear that sexual sin leads to death and bondage. It leads to death – death of the heart, death of a marriage, death of so much more than we ever anticipated.
Solomon goes on to warn us to not even go near her door, that we should remove ourselves far from her. Why should we be enraptured by an immoral woman – or simply put, pornography? To be caught in the cords of my own sin will bring death.
I will give my man a woman whose eyes are for him only. He will enrapture me for all of my days!
5. A wife who laughs
Marcus has an incredible sense of humour. He is extraordinarily witty and amusing. He is able to think of funny things to say off the cuff. I don’t think a day goes by that he doesn’t make me laugh several times. Even when I’ve had a rough day and I end up in tears, he comforts me and then says something that is beyond funny. Be a wife who laughs easily. Delight in humour together. Our men love to hear us laugh, and if they are the ones to do it, the better!
6. A wife who encourages
My words can either destroy Marcus or build him up. As his wife, I have astonishing influence over him. I can use this power to manipulate and emasculate him. Or I can use it to help him grow into the man God desires him to be and I can help him fulfill God’s plan for his life. I need to choose my words wisely and carefully. He is by no means a weak man, but he has entrusted me with his heart, with his devotion and his love. I will not make light of such an honour.
7. A wife who prays
This is especially true when I feel frustrated with Marcus. When I turn my focus from myself (AKA selfishness) and onto God and His plan for our family, my frustration dissipates. My frustration is then replaced with love for Marcus.
I know that I need to pray for my husband and for our marriage. Just because it is strong and rock solid doesn’t mean I am free to abandon my prayer life. I still need to cover my husband in prayer regularly. There are some decisions only he can make, like his business decisions. I can’t make them for him, I don’t think I could even offer suggestions simply because I don’t know enough about his work – he deals with customs, brokering, trucking companies, etc.
BUT, I can pray that God bestows great wisdom upon him for the choices he needs to make. He does talk with me about issues, but I am not knowledgeable in his field. However, I could reassure him that God has been faithful in the past and He will continue to be. I can reassure Marcus that I trust the decisions he makes for our family. I assured him that I was very confident in his wisdom in this situation. And then I pray with him for peace and wisdom.
I can’t even begin to tell you how praying with and for your husband builds up your marriage and builds him up as well.
Bonus – A wife who reclaims her beauty
He thinks I am beautiful. He loves me the way I am. It breaks his heart to think that I believe the lie that I am ugly. It took a lot of work, but God has healed and restored. I have shed the shame and reclaimed my beauty.
Are you with me?
I wrote more about my struggle in the post “To The Wife Who Doesn’t Feel Sexy“. And, as one reader commented on that post…”Let’s get crazy here, to actually feel BEAUTIFUL for once!” **Thank you Amy!!** The enemy has stolen enough from you, hasn’t he?
Are you sick and tired of him ripping you off – ripping off your marriage? I am! So, let’s show him where Truth comes from! Let’s prove that Jesus is the redeemer!
I hope this encouraged your heart today. You may have been looking for more tangible ideas…but I hope and pray you found some healing for your heart. I intend to write a quick post on the more tangible ideas since I have been picking my hubby’s brain about Valentine gift ideas…he had quite a few thoughts. So, stay tuned for that post!
One year, I wrote out a bunch of love notes for Marcus and taped them all over the house. He absolutely loved searching the house for these special notes. I explain this in more detail in my post “1 Amazing Way To Love On Your Husband“. A set of gorgeous love notes is available here. You will also get a copy of my “100 Reasons Why I Love You” printable book that contains hearts for you to write reasons why you love your spouse, child, parent or friend.