I have noticed that there are some days where I just need to ‘connect’ with my man…if you know what I mean. I find that I am in a much better mood when my needs have been met. I am more relaxed and at peace. I crave that special connection with Marcus because it is so intimate. I don’t think God would have it any other way. He created sex for more than only procreation. It is a sacred act between a husband and wife – and I believe it is deeply spiritual. Our hearts connect and we are as physically close as to people can get. We are both vulnerable to each other. But sometimes life happens and this gets put on the back burner. We lose our passion. We are tired. We don’t feel sexy enough…the list could go on and on. Trust me, I’ve had my fair share of demons to overcome in this area with childhood sexual abuse and the lie of not being ‘sexy’. Let’s talk about When You Need To Rekindle The Romance.
When my son was born, this part of life was very difficult. Without going into too much detail, my son’s shoulders did considerable damage to my body. Almost 6 months passed by before I was able to do anything without too much pain. I felt awful about myself and I started to believe that my hubby was so disappointed in me – he was so good to pick up on this and reassure me. But, ladies, let’s be honest…this area in married life isn’t always a bed of roses 😉 However, this just means that we need to do a bit of work. Here are a few suggestions that will help.
Pray over intimacy in your marriage. I can’t tell you how this does wonders for intimacy! Whatever the problem may be – turn to God in prayer. Maybe you are annoyed with your spouse…oh, yeah, I know all about this! When I pray about how I am feeling, God is faithful to soften my heart. Maybe there is some wounding that is preventing you from being intimate with your man. Pray. Pray hard. I am no stranger to deep wounding – both from my childhood and in marriage – and so much more. Pray for healing in your heart.
Talk to your hubby about your struggles. Let him know what is going on with you so that he can pray for you, support you and encourage you. If you are tired, maybe you can ask him to help out in a specific area like putting the kids to bed or finishing up the laundry (that will mean you will need to let go of the laundry being done
the right way your way – if I can do it, so can you). If he has hurt your feelings, tell him in a gracious manner. I’ve had to do this many times because my hubby was totally oblivious to the fact that he has hurt me! They aren’t mind readers, ladies!
If he has hurt your feelings, tell him in a gracious manner. I’ve had to do this many times because my hubby was totally oblivious to the fact that he has hurt me! They aren’t mind readers, ladies!
Sometimes we just need to have a bit of fun. There have been times when I just needed to temporarily forget about my troubles and enjoy my hubby (the benefit of this is that I usually begin to see the situation in a new perspective afterward…maybe that or I am just happier…not really sure which).
Sometimes we may need a bit of help in being playful. That’s why I love this resource by Jami Balmet of Homemaking Ministries. Her Rekindling Romance eKit has fantastic ideas and printables to use for your play time!
What do you get in this kit? Well…
There’s a cute love coupon book – I love the font on these! The ideas are really great – dinner at a restaurant of choice, movie of choice…so, not just bedroom related 😆
A printable sheet of ideas to make up a romance gift basket – again, such great ideas for items to put into the basket!
A Newlywed Strip game…you don’t need to be newlyweds to play! My hubby will write funny responses for the questions, which gets me laughing. He loves to make me laugh. Laughter creates intimacy.
A blank booklet template for writing the reasons I love my hubby on. Or he can write a set for me. Quite a few years back, I wrote a bunch of love notes for my hubby and posted them around the house. He absolutely LOVED it. So, love notes are always a hit around here!
A booklet that has beautiful and encouraging marriage quotes. We all need to be encouraged in our marriages, don’t we? With so much pitted against Godly marriages, it helps to know that there are voices out there rooting for us.
Blank templates to make up you own scavenger hunt…oh, boy, this will be super fun! Prepare beforehand and set it up when he is gone and the kids are away (or in bed – be creative – send him for a can of whipping cream to get him out of the house).
An invitation to a romantic evening in – I love this idea. It comes with cute tickets, too.
A printable CD cover to make your own romantic CD. My hubby and I have done this in the past, too. Always lots of fun.
Isn’t this a fabulous resource package? So many great ideas included and I love the color scheme.
This bundle has several great looking resources included in it, but if you get it and use only this resource, there will be 2 very happy, happy, happy people in your house! If you missed getting this resource in the Build Your Bundle Sale, hop on over to Jami’s site and get her special marriage bundle – the other resources in this bundle look equally fantastic.
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