My dear readers, I have a special treat for you today!  I have a beautiful young woman guest posting here today.  There is a special spot in my heart for the unmarried woman of God.  I long to encourage them to live fully for God.  They have a unique opportunity to do amazing things for God that we married woman can’t – our obligations are to our families.  The next time you chat with a lovely unmarried woman, ask her what God is calling her to, what He is doing in her life…instead of the dreaded question of whether or not she has a ‘man in her life’.  Put the focus on her relationship with God.  

Because of that tender spot, I am so pleased and excited to share Ava James of Inspired By His Words with you today.  She wrote a wonderful post on 3 Things To Avoid While Waiting for the One.  Read, leave her an encouraging comment, share the post and then hop on over to her site to read some good stuff there!!  

You thought for sure you'd be married by now. Maybe even have children. But it hasn't happened yet. It can be hard waiting...waiting for God. But the wait will be worth it. Here are 3 Things To Avoid While Waiting for the One.I am not a patient person, but in my decision to surrender my heart totally to Christ, I asked Him to make me into the person after His own heart – a pretty tall order!

And guess where He started?  With the two words I struggle with.

  • Wait…
  • Patience…

So how do I avoid letting my emotions take over and losing focus that God is in control of this important area of my life?  Here are 3 things I must avoid doing while I am waiting.

1. Getting Frustrated…

Every day, I must learn to wait… From the minute I start my day… I am obliged to wait… For the kettle to boil for a cup of coffee…  In traffic as I drive to work… The list never ends.

I love this verse because it gives me so much hope in waiting…

Stay with God! 

Take heart. Don’t quit.
I’ll say it again: 

Stay with God.

Psalms 27:14 (The Message)


2. Becoming Weary…

Although I have prayerfully waited for many things, the one prayer that has not been answered yet is waiting for the one

From making mistakes and doing things contrary to God’s Word, I have learned that ‘rejection’ and ‘doors closing’ is actually God protecting my heart.  In this journey of totally surrendering my heart to Christ, I had to learn to let go of every ‘way’ I thought I could ‘assist’ God in trying to find that person.

As Christ is changing my heart, I have learned what it means to fully submit this area of my life to His Lordship.  If He knows my heart and He made me, He knows me better than anyone.  So who would be a better matchmaker than God!

In Romans 5, Paul talks about developing patience and I love this chapter because it helps me to hold on when I get weary…

There’s more to come: We continue to shout our praise even when we’re hemmed in with troubles, because we know how troubles can develop passionate patience in us, and how that patience in turn forges the tempered steel of virtue, keeping us alert for whatever God will do next. In alert expectancy such as this, we’re never left feeling short-changed. Quite the contrary—we can’t round up enough containers to hold everything God generously pours into our lives through the Holy Spirit! 

Romans 5:3-5 (The Message)


3. Give Up Hope…

Although there is a continual struggle between ‘how I feel’ and knowing what Christ wants me to do, I have finally yielded the decision of ‘waiting for the one’ to Him.

Because I trust Him and know that any plan I have will never be as great as the one He has for me!  And with that, I am prepared to wait for Him to bring the right person to me.  In this time of waiting, although there is a continual struggle between ‘my feelings’ and waiting for my prayer to be answered, I know my waiting is not in vain.  In my waiting, as I pray for a future husband, Christ is working in my heart – teaching me so much and changing my character into the person He wants me to be!

Wait… Pause… Delay… the peace of God calms my soul and I know that waiting is all part of His plan to make me more like Christ so that I don’t give up hope…

God can do anything, you know—far more than you could ever imagine or guess or request in your wildest dreams! He does it not by pushing us around but by working within us, his Spirit deeply and gently within us. 

Ephesians 3:20-21 (The Message)

You thought for sure you'd be married by now. Maybe even have children. But it hasn't happened yet. It can be hard waiting...waiting for God. But the wait will be worth it. Here are 3 Things To Avoid While Waiting for the One.

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I am a down to earth, friendly, rock chic Christian chick… I love Christ… worship… coffee... and writing!  I live in England, United Kingdom.  I have a law degree and work in a medico-legal role.  I am passionate and creative in everything I do.  

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  • Ava you are inspiring us all to wait on the ONE who is the true owner of our hearts, married or single. But I especially loved the 2nd point you mentioned about the Lord protecting your heart in the times you felt you were rejected. This was actually a discussion I had with my son recently when he was concerned with why he had not yet found the ‘one’ for him. I told him that I was grateful he was not dating and was waiting and that it was preserving his heart and that while he was running after God, pursuing Him and evening waiting with Him, that one day he’d be able to look to the right or the left and see that there was someone else going the same way, and he’d understand why the wait was worthy.

    Thanks for sharing.

    • Ava James

      Dawn, thank you for your comment, this is encouraging too.. In the times I have felt ‘rejected’, immediately, it is hard to understand why… but looking back at certain situations, I have realised that God was redirecting me. In these times, I have remained focused on God and seeking His guidance for everything. I agree that in time, like your son – I too will be able to see that my waiting is knowing God is in total control of my life and that gives me more peace.. knowing the One who made me… has the best plan for me!
      At the moment I am writing ’31 Days of Praying for My Future Husband To be’… I believe praying is one of the most important tool we have in the time of waiting… Much love ava