When Homeschooling Goes Wrong

We’ve all had ‘those’ days – or weeks.  I know you know what I am talking about.  Unless you are one of those perfect homeschool moms who rises at 3 am to bake her own bread (after she grinds her own wheat) and has her kids up by 6 am, dressed, hair brushed, teeth cleaned, (ultimate healthy) breakfast eaten, and the dishes cleaned up.  If that’s you, then I am confused as to why you are even reading this post.  This isn’t for you.  It’s for the rest of us.  Those of us who are failing miserably at this homeschool/homemaker thing.  This post is for us homeschool moms who aren’t sure what to do When Homeschooling Goes Wrong.

Sometimes homeschooling isn't all it's cracked up to be. Sometimes we even feel like giving up and checking the kids into the local public school. This is when we need to remember the truth and have some practical tips up our sleeves to help us get through these days (or weeks). When Homeschooling Goes Wrong

Let’s be honest.  Homeschooling is NOT easy.  It is crazy hard!  After you step into the homeschool realm, you begin to wonder what on earth you were thinking!  It’s too late to turn back now, right?  You had no idea how hard this would be.  Your dreams of quietly reading on the sofa together have been squashed right beside the soggy, store-bought, boxed cereal that you just stepped on.  

Defeat. 

Doubt. 

Despair. 

They turn out to be our ‘friends’ – and you know how the saying goes – with friends like that, who needs enemies? 

The Truth

Well, my friend here is the truth.  You DO have an enemy.  One who absolutely HATES what you are doing.  He HATES that you have dedicated your heart, soul, strength, and mind to serving God by teaching your precious children at home. 

Do you know why? 

It is because he has so many fewer chances to dig his hooks into them.

Let’s keep this in mind as we walk through the rigors of homeschooling.  

We have an enemy.  

And we have a target on our backs.

He would love to discourage us from our calling to educate our kids.  Because if he can discourage us, he can stop us.  He can make us give up.  And if we stop teaching our kids, then that will have a huge impact on God’s call on their life.  Do you see how this all ties together?

Our duty goes far beyond simply teaching reading, writing, and arithmetic.

We impact the future generations.  Today.

We are in a spiritual battle with parenting…even in our homeschool.

Hold Up, Lady!

Ok, right now, you might be thinking, “Wait a minute, Aimee.  You don’t know my kids.  You haven’t seen our day.  I have failed so many times I have lost count.  There is no way I am impacting future generations.”

You are right – I don’t know your kids.  But I know mine.  And I know my own past.  And I know God’s word – He has a future and a plan for us.  

Yes, He has a plan for us.

And He has a plan for our kids.

And for their kids.

We might not know what that plan is, but we can rest assured that it is a good one.  We can trust Him at His word – that He has a special calling on our kids.  And we can either fight for our kids to heed that calling.  Or we can give in to the lies of the enemy and wallow in his web of despair.

What will you choose today?  Tomorrow?  Next week?

But…That’s It?

I know – it’s all easy to say, right?  Yeah, this is a good reminder.  But how about something more practical for those ‘off’ days?  

Well, I’ve got you covered, friend!

I have been working with homeschool families for 12 years now as well as educating my own kids.  And I am going to give you the same tips I would give to one of my homeschool moms when they struggle with the same thing.

Here it is:

1. Just Worship

Sing worship songs together.  There is just something about worshipping the Lord together that helps put life back into perspective.  YouTube has pretty much every Christian song you can think of – and most of them have lyric videos so you can easily follow along.  Several years ago I started a worship playlist with the songs we enjoy singing so they are ready to go at a moments notice!

2. Turn on the TV (gasp!)

Some days, we just need to put the books away and watch something together.  Netflix has a lot of documentaries.

Better yet, PureFlix actually has a resource for homeschool families.  You just sign up for their weekly resource email and you’ll get great ideas on how to use what is on PureFlix for your homeschool.

3. Take a Break

Be sure that you have scheduled in days off of school.  For example, when the public schools have a Pro-D day, make sure you have one, too.  Long weekends are great for the extended break.  

We need breaks in between.  So do our kids.  

4. Get Out!

When the weather gets nice here in the spring, I will let my kids work outside.  Sure, they might get distracted sometimes, but by the time spring rolls around, we’ve completed a significant amount of work already and those distractions turn out to be educational.  What is the best way to get rid of an ant hill?  When will that praying mantis egg case hatch?  And fresh air is always a good thing.

5. Go Digital

I have fallen in love with digital products over the last few years.  I use Teachers Pay Teachers on a regular basis – STEM projects are so easy to find there…and kids LOVE them!  When I am just ready to have a less structured day, I find a digital product that is already on my computer and print it off.

Another resource for fantastic digital products is the Build Your Bundle sale that happens every year…it’s over for this year but if you’d like to make sure you don’t miss it for 2018, let me know by signing up below.  I love getting resources here for super cheap – and I can use them later in the school year.  They are conveniently stored on my computer and I can print what I need when I need it.  

6. Just Say NO!

I don’t like ‘busywork’ – this is the worksheets and pages of school work your kids do even though they already understand the concept being worked on.  This may also be spelling tests and grammar worksheets – I find I get a better idea of where my kids and my students are at by reading their actual written compositions.  Just say ‘no’ to busy work.

7. Love the Undone

It’s ok to leave some pages blank or unfinished.  You know what?  It’s even ok to let a book go unfinished.  When it is time to let go, just let it go…

Just. Let. It. Go.

8. Be With God

Spend time with God – whatever that looks like for you in this season.  It might not be getting up before the sun rises and spending an hour in the Word.  It might actually be reading a piece of scripture taped to the bathroom door as you do your business (or inhale a candy bar).  I’ve even created a free printable to get you started!  Simply download these 6 scripture cards to print and post around your home.  I’ve also included 6 blank templates for you to write your own verses.

Scripture Verses for the Tired Homeschool Mom

Remember

Remember, my friend, your enemy does not want you to succeed in fulfilling your calling to home educate your precious children.  I know it is hard right now.  But you will get through it.  You will have better days.  And when you do, tuck them away in your heart so when you come across another difficult season, you will have them to treasure…and to be confident that better days are on the horizon…again.

Sometimes homeschooling isn't all it's cracked up to be. Sometimes we even feel like giving up and checking the kids into the local public school. This is when we need to remember the truth and have some practical tips up our sleeves to help us get through these days (or weeks). When Homeschooling Goes Wrong

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Grace & Truth ~ What Does it Mean To Be Meek?

Meek isn’t a word we usually use in our culture today.  So, many of us probably don’t even know what it means let alone what it means in Greek as was used in writing the New Testament scriptures.  Kira shares with us what meek means and how to apply it in our own lives.  Her post, What Does it Mean To Be Meek?, is well written and a joy to read – as her posts always are;)

Kira, please be sure to grab this “I’ve Been Featured” image below and add it, with a link to this page, to your post so that your readers can celebrate with you!  

 

Grace and Truth Link-up http://aimeeimbeau.com

Now for this week’s link up!  Let’s bless and encourage one another in our walk with the Lord. Read More

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A Word Of Encouragement For Young Moms

When my kids were young, a lot of my prayer time was through song.  I would have a worship cd playing while I cleaned, cooked or did other mommy tasks.  Those songs turned into my prayers.  Often, I had a Snuggli wrapped around my body with Matt in it – he liked being close to me – he would cry if I put him down.  When I shared with a friend about my time with God being mostly through worship songs, her response was very discouraging to me as a mom of young children.  She told me that it wasn’t ‘enough’ – I had to do more.  The prayers from my heart through worship were not enough.  Have you ever been discouraged that way?  Someone may have had good intentions, but they lacked compassion and understanding – they did not have LOVE.  As sisters in Christ, we are to encourage and lift each other up.  So, that is the purpose of this post, A Word Of Encouragement For Young Moms.

Are you feeling the pressure of doing this mommy thing right? Fitting everything in? And it's not working? Here is A Word Of Encouragement For Young Moms

Little ones keep mommies very busy, don’t they?  Time and energy to keep the house clean and prepare meals seem to be meager. Add on top of that the pressure to spend 30 minutes of uninterrupted quiet time in the Word and in prayer daily.  I mean, if you want to be a good Christian, then that’s what you do.  Right? Read More

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Why I Love Using Digital Products In My Homeschool

When I started my homeschool journey 12 years ago, I’d come home from the local homeschool convention with loads…and loads of curriculum.  Books upon books of work for my kids to do.  Spelling programs, super-thick grammar workbooks, math sheets, and so much more…too much more.  My kids were overwhelmed.  I was overwhelmed.  We would make it through about a third of our homeschool year before many of the workbooks were tossed in the recycle bin…unfinished.  A waste of money.  A big waste of time.  Since I can’t rewind time and do things differently, I can, at least, encourage new homeschool moms – and maybe moms who have been homeschooling for a number of years and are worn out – to not make the same mistake.  Things started to change for me when I started using digital resources.  Homeschooling became easier and less overwhelming.  Today, I want to share with you Why I Love Using Digital Products In My Homeschool.

Do you have curriculum that just sits on your shelf, unused? Do your kids get part way through a workbook before you give up fighting with them to finish it? Do you feel pressured to buy a year's worth of programs at the homeschool convention? I get it. I switched to using mostly digital products a few years back and I love it. Why I Love Using Digital Products In My Homeschool

One of the reasons I stocked up on curriculum at the convention was the pressure to buy, buy, buy.  There were always specials and deals at convention.  While this can be a good thing if you are prepared, it can lead to buying stuff you don’t really need if you aren’t prepared.  Impulsive buying can be a huge problem in the vendor halls!  You want to be a good steward of your money, so you buy because it’s a good deal.  But if it isn’t a good fit for your family, then it ends up being a waste.   Read More

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3 Signs Of A Well-Nourished Spirit

While our family isn’t extreme in our diets, we are careful in what we eat.  It isn’t very often that we dine out and hubby’s cooking is WAY better anyway.  The majority of our meals is freshly cooked at home and our family enjoys a variety of raw vegetables.  It’s important for us to watch our diets within reason and to appreciate “junk food” in moderation.  But what if we chose to have a diet of processed foods, fast foods, microwaved foods, chips, soda pop and all that other junk on a daily basis?  What would eventually start happening to our bodies?  We’d be tired, our thought processes would become sluggish, we’d gain extra weight, we’d be sick all the time.  Even our mood would be affected – depression, irritability, and plain old grumpiness.  This is the same with our spiritual diet.  I want to share 3 Signs Of A Well-Nourished Spirit.  

What we eat has a direct affect on how we feel physically. It is also true of our spiritual diet. What we consume spiritually will have a direct affect on our spiritual walk. 3 Signs Of A Well-Nourished Spirit.You see, just like our physical diet, we have a choice in how we manage our spiritual diets.  We can stuff our spirits with junk, complaining all the time, being easily offended, entertaining negative self-talk and more.  It is so frustrating when I see people whine about where they are either spiritually or physically and they are choosing to fill themselves with all this garbage.  And they are shocked when they are sick all the time, both in a physical and spiritual sense. Read More

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4 Reasons to Celebrate Mother’s Day Even When You Don’t Feel Like It

We were driving home from visiting my husband’s dad when we passed the mini golf center and my son piped up from the back, “Hey, I remember going there!  We went there for Mother’s Day a few years ago!”  Oh, yes, I remember, too, son.  It wasn’t exactly an easy day for me but we did have a lot of laughs there (I’m not the best mini golfer and I tend to ‘help’ the ball get into the hole).  As we continued to drive, I reflected on that day.  Bittersweet.  Difficult and yet so much fun.  It’s funny how he remembered going there and shared that memory at that point in time…we had driven past that place several times since.  But I think I needed to remember that I can celebrate this day even though it’s not all it is cracked up to be.  Here are 4 Reasons to Celebrate Mother’s Day Even When You Don’t Feel Like It.

Are you feeling apprehensive about celebrating Mother's Day this year? Perhaps there is too much pain associated with this day for you for whatever reason. Maybe you just want a quiet day? I hope this post encourages you to celebrate your motherhood in whatever way your heart needs this year. 4 Reasons to Celebrate Mother’s Day Even When You Don’t Feel Like It

Mother’s Day.  This day evokes many emotions.  Everything from great joy to deep sorrow.  For me, it is just another reminder of what I never really had.

BUT…

This year is going to be different.  Why?  Because of the important people in my life. Read More

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Is Your Contentious Attitude Affecting Your Sex Life?

Years ago, I struggled with anger.  I was an angry mom, and angry wife…just a plain old angry woman.  And this had a huge negative impact on my bedroom activities.  I had to deal with the root of my anger before I would see any improvement in any other area of my life, including intimacy.  The condition of our hearts, our attitudes, and how we treat others has a direct effect on what our bedroom activity, or the lack thereof, looks like.  The effect is for good…or for worse.  So, ladies, is your contentious attitude affecting your sex life?   

What does your attitude have to do with intimacy? Lots! If you have a bad attitude, it will creep into every area of your life and marriage, including your sex life! But you do have a choice on what to do with it. Is Your Contentious Attitude Affecting Your Sex Life?

This Angry Woman

There was this one time when this angry mom exploded at her kids.  I just went “off the grid” – saying things I knew I’d deeply regret later on.  But I just kept carrying that angry spirit around and I made sure everyone felt it.  I was completely unreasonable and my behavior was appalling.  I am even embarrassed to be sharing this with you.  Really, it was shameful.  Read More

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Is It Really My Duty As His Wife?

Quite a few years ago, a younger friend was preparing the final details of her wedding plans.  With a playful grin, I mentioned to her that two of my favorite verses in the Bible was 1 Corinthians 7: 3 & 4.  She agreed with me and we had a good chuckle about it.  However, over the years, I have come to see how this little passage has been taken out of context and the original meaning that Paul intended.  This “advice” on marital intimacy is seriously lacking.  Sure, maybe it sounds good at first, but when I really thought about it, the advice just didn’t sit well.  Perhaps you’ve fallen into the trap of this ‘advice’ as well.  Are you believing the lie of being intimate with your husband in the name of duty?  Are you wondering “Is It Really My Duty As His Wife?”

Have you been met with the response "It's your duty as his wife" when you have expressed a struggle with intimacy in marriage? Me, too. More times than necessary, that's for sure. In this post, I address that question...Is It Really My Duty As His Wife?

You’ve probably heard this ‘advice’ – or maybe you’ve even given it to a friend.   
Scripture says my body belongs to my husband, therefore I should not deprive him.  It doesn’t matter if I don’t ‘feel like it’, I should give it to him anyway because it is my duty as his wife.

**SIGH** Read More

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The Unashamed Wife’s Secret to Healthy Intimacy

Intimacy in marriage isn’t something I often talk about on my blog.  But, today, I’d like to chat about it a bit.  Hopefully, that’s ok with you.  I love having the intimate relationship with my husband.  BUT…it hasn’t always been easy.  We’ve had our rough patches.  And I want to share a secret with you…The Unashamed Wife’s Secret to Healthy Intimacy.

Are you wishing for healthier intimacy with your husband? Are you feeling defeated in this area? Like "Is this all there is? Why is it so much easier for others? Why can't I be the wife my husband needs?" I hope you find encouragement in The Unashamed Wife's Secret to Healthy Intimacy.WWomen who know me a bit more know that I enjoy my husband. So, when I confessed a while ago that I was struggling a bit in that area, it was met with surprise…maybe shock. And I felt a bit disappointed about that.  Because that was an indication that what I have been through has been misunderstood.  Or there was a misconception that the level of intimacy I’ve enjoyed with my husband came easily to us…to me.      Read More

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10 Comforting Scripture Verses for the Broken Heart

I remember sitting in that group of women staring at the few objects on the coffee table.  Each woman taking her turn sharing which object was most like her heart at that point.  I don’t remember all of the objects that sat on that table. Only one object has remained in my memory.  The one thing that reminded me of my heart then.  A cracked glass lantern.  Shattered pieces put together carefully, but still incredibly fragile.  Any slight mishandling would crumble the frail lantern.  I think about that lantern today because that is the condition of my heart yet again.  Broken.  Shattered.  In a state of grief.  Maybe that’s where you are, too.  If so, here are 10 Comforting Scripture Verses for the Broken Heart to help heal your precious heart.

The healing balm for the broken heart is the promises of God found in His word. Here are 10 Comforting Scripture Verses for the Broken Heart.

Last week, the Christian blogging community was hit with devastating news.  Heart-breaking news of the death of one of the most inspiring and encouraging bloggers out there; Mandy Kelly of Worshipful Living.  She, along with her husband and two youngest children perished in a horrific house fire.  Mandy and Scott’s two teenaged children survived along with Scott’s mother.      

Broken

Because Mandy brought the hope of Jesus to so many all over the world, the news of her death has left many hearts shattered.  We know where she is.  And we rejoice with her, knowing she is exactly where her heart longs to be…at the feet of Jesus.  But our hearts are still broken.  We are still broken.  Because we loved her dearly.  And I know that if she could, she would point all of us to Jesus through our grief.  She would remind us of the promises in God’s word.  So, that’s what I’m going to do today.

God’s heart breaks, too.  He understands.

The Lord is near…even in times of brokenness.     

Psalm 34:18 The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.

My Healer

He heals our broken hearts.  He tenderly wraps our wounds in bandages.  

Psalm 147:3   He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.

My Strength

My heart will break.  It will break because I have loved.  Sometimes I want to avoid loving others, opening myself to hurt again because it leads to a broken heart at some point in some way.  But, I cannot allow my heart to dictate my love (no, don’t ‘follow your heart’).  I can’t rely on my heart.  My heart will fail.  My Father is the strength of my heart.    

Psalm 73:26  My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart forever.

My Peace

My heart is troubled.  Troubled with grief.  Afraid.  “What if…” comes knocking.  I must hand my anxious heart over to Jesus and receive His peace.  Even if it means doing this over and over again several times a day.

John 14:27 Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.

My Helper

In my brokenness, He promises to remain.  Always.  He is my helper.  

Hebrews 13:5-6  For He has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” So that we may boldly say, “The Lord is my helper, and I will not fear what man shall do to me.”

My Savior

One day…no more tears…no more death.  My broken heart will be completely whole.  I can’t wait for that day.  This is what our friend Mandy sees now.  She is singing and dancing in worship to her Savior.  One day I will join her.

Revelation 21:4  He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.

My Rest

I am weak.  So very weak.  But it is in my weakness that Christ shines brightly. I rely on His strength instead of my own.  I’m so thankful that I don’t have to do this alone.  I don’t have to muster up the strength to put my broken heart back together.  In fact, I have learned that the times I have tried to do just that is when I make a big mess of everything and I end up building a wall around the broken shards of my heart.  His power and grace rests upon me…and brings my broken heart to rest.     

2 Corinthians 12:9  And He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. 

My Steadfastness

Not only is God beside me, never leaving me or forsaking me.  But, He is also ahead of me, making a way for me.  He directs my path, my steps.  Even in the darkest moments, He is with me.  In the tears.  In the sadness.  And in the grief.  All the time.

Deuteronomy 31:8  Do not be afraid or discouraged, for the LORD will personally go ahead of you. He will be with you; he will neither fail you nor abandon you. 

My Comforter

Oh, to know that I can come to my Savior for rest.  My heart is heavy.  So, so heavy.  And that’s ok.  My Healer is gentle and His heart is broken right along with mine.  Our hearts are broken together.  He shares in the grief.  He is moved by my grief.  

Matthew 11:28-30  “Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.  Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.  “For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”  

My Truth

The last verse that will help bring comfort and healing to the broken heart is the one where Paul instructs us on what we ought to think about.  Thinking about such good things…things that are wonderful and lovely…will soothe and calm our shattered, hurting hearts.  

Philippians 4:8 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

Beautiful Fractures

I think about that cracked glass lantern again.  I realize just how beautiful it looked when the tealight candle inside of it was lit.  The soft, gentle glow radiated through the cracks in the most amazing way.  The soothing gleam reminds me of the truth of how Jesus shines brilliantly and beautifully through our cracks and fractures.  What others would normally throw into the trash, He restores for His purpose.  And the broken heart is precious to Him.  Because that’s what He uses to bring even more broken hearts to Himself.  

A Reminder

Do you need these beautiful reminders today, too?  If so, I made this printable for you.  Simply download, print and post wherever you will see it every day.

10 Comforting Scripture Verses for the Broken Heart

Printable for my blog post 10 Comforting Scripture Verses for the Broken Heart.


The healing balm for the broken heart is the promises of God found in His word. Here are 10 Comforting Scripture Verses for the Broken Heart.

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