Is Your Contentious Attitude Affecting Your Sex Life?

Years ago, I struggled with anger.  I was an angry mom, and angry wife…just a plain old angry woman.  And this had a huge negative impact on my bedroom activities.  I had to deal with the root of my anger before I would see any improvement in any other area of my life, including intimacy.  The condition of our hearts, our attitudes, and how we treat others has a direct effect on what our bedroom activity, or the lack thereof, looks like.  The effect is for good…or for worse.  So, ladies, is your contentious attitude affecting your sex life?   

What does your attitude have to do with intimacy? Lots! If you have a bad attitude, it will creep into every area of your life and marriage, including your sex life! But you do have a choice on what to do with it. Is Your Contentious Attitude Affecting Your Sex Life?

This Angry Woman

There was this one time when this angry mom exploded at her kids.  I just went “off the grid” – saying things I knew I’d deeply regret later on.  But I just kept carrying that angry spirit around and I made sure everyone felt it.  I was completely unreasonable and my behavior was appalling.  I am even embarrassed to be sharing this with you.  Really, it was shameful.  Read More

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Steven Curtis Chapman, A Coloring Book, and Aliens. Say What?!

Steven Curtis Chapman, A Coloring Book, and Aliens.  Say What?! That’s a strange title, isn’t it?  What do these things have in common?  Well…I was given the opportunity to review three books: Steven Curtis Chapman’s biography Between Heaven and the Real World: My Story, Words of Grace coloring book and devotional by Jacqui Grace & Dee Arrand and Thomas Locke’s novel, Recruits.  Nuts About Books gave me these books in exchange for a review.  I was not compensated in any way except for receiving a copy of each book.  However, I did purchase an extra copy of the coloring book devotional to give away to a reader.  See the bottom of this post for details.

A book review of Steven Curtis Chapman's biography, Between Heaven and the Real World, Jacqui Grace's coloring book devotional, Words of Grace and Thomas Locke's novel, Recruits. Steven Curtis Chapman, A Coloring Book, and Aliens. Say What?!

Between Heaven and the Real World: Steven Curtis Chapman’s Biography

I remember working in my kitchen when I heard the horrible news of Steven’s daughter, Maria, eight years ago.  I had the satellite radio playing while I worked and the DJ shared the devastating news of this little girl’s death.  And I wept for Steven’s family.  And I prayed for them in the following days.

So, when I had the opportunity to read his story, I knew I just had to.  I love stories of redemption and restoration.  In a world that swirls with brokenness and pain, we desperately need these stories of hope and life.  

And Steven’s story did not disappoint.  He did not hide the pain and suffering his family went through with the loss of their sweet daughter.  He did not shy away from the challenges they faced in the aftermath.  But he did give God all the glory for the hope they have held fast to since that painful day.  How they surrounded their one son with so much love – love that surely brought healing to his heart.  How they held on to each other.  And how friends surrounded them with care and love.  And most of all, how they continually cried out to God to help them survive such a tragedy.  

You can get your copy of Steven’s book from his website or from Amazon. ca in Canada or Amazon.com in the USA.

 

 

Words Of Grace

Adult coloring books are all the rage these days, aren’t they?  I enjoy some Bible journaling and scripture coloring pages during my ‘down time’.  Those don’t happen often, but when they do, I find that this sort of activity helps me to relax and rest in the Lord.

Jacqui Grace’s devotional and coloring book is a great resource for any Christian is looking for a coloring book to supplement their Bible study time.  I liked how the devotional was relevant and the coloring pages were Christ-centered.   

This little book is also just the right size for popping into my handbag.  I can then bring it out while waiting at the doctor’s office for my appointment.   

I would love to offer this book to a reader.  Please see below for details!

Order from Amazon.ca in Canada or Amazon.com in the USA.

Recruits

I thought my son, who is 13, would enjoy Thomas Locke’s book, so I requested a copy of it for him to read.  And, as moms usually are, I was right in my thought;)  My son started reading it and he could not put it down!  I don’t think I’ve ever seen him read a novel so quicky!  While it might not be overtly “Christian’ (you know, sometimes we need to do some digging to ‘see’ God), it is a good read, unlike a lot of trash that is out there these days.  Here is my son’s review of the book.

The book Recruits by Thomas Locke was a great book that I didn’t get bored of, which I normally do.  This fantasy book has tons of action and some romance as well. I liked it because I’m fond of action and fantasy. I recommend this novel to young adults who like The Maze Runner, and The Hunger Games.

Purchase from Amazon.ca in Canada (Kindle) or Amazon.com in the USA.

 

 

Giveaway Time!

Enter below to have a chance to win a copy of Jacqui Grace’s coloring book devotional AND a copy of my devotional, Hold Fast: A 30-Day Devotional.  These are hard copies that will be mailed to you.  Contest ends May 1, 2017.

A book review of Steven Curtis Chapman's biography, Between Heaven and the Real World, Jacqui Grace's coloring book devotional, Words of Grace and Thomas Locke's novel, Recruits. Steven Curtis Chapman, A Coloring Book, and Aliens. Say What?!

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Is It Really My Duty As His Wife?

Quite a few years ago, a younger friend was preparing the final details of her wedding plans.  With a playful grin, I mentioned to her that two of my favorite verses in the Bible was 1 Corinthians 7: 3 & 4.  She agreed with me and we had a good chuckle about it.  However, over the years, I have come to see how this little passage has been taken out of context and the original meaning that Paul intended.  This “advice” on marital intimacy is seriously lacking.  Sure, maybe it sounds good at first, but when I really thought about it, the advice just didn’t sit well.  Perhaps you’ve fallen into the trap of this ‘advice’ as well.  Are you believing the lie of being intimate with your husband in the name of duty?  Are you wondering “Is It Really My Duty As His Wife?”

Have you been met with the response "It's your duty as his wife" when you have expressed a struggle with intimacy in marriage? Me, too. More times than necessary, that's for sure. In this post, I address that question...Is It Really My Duty As His Wife?

You’ve probably heard this ‘advice’ – or maybe you’ve even given it to a friend.   
Scripture says my body belongs to my husband, therefore I should not deprive him.  It doesn’t matter if I don’t ‘feel like it’, I should give it to him anyway because it is my duty as his wife.

**SIGH** Read More

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The Unashamed Wife’s Secret to Healthy Intimacy

Intimacy in marriage isn’t something I often talk about on my blog.  But, today, I’d like to chat about it a bit.  Hopefully, that’s ok with you.  I love having the intimate relationship with my husband.  BUT…it hasn’t always been easy.  We’ve had our rough patches.  And I want to share a secret with you…The Unashamed Wife’s Secret to Healthy Intimacy.

Are you wishing for healthier intimacy with your husband? Are you feeling defeated in this area? Like "Is this all there is? Why is it so much easier for others? Why can't I be the wife my husband needs?" I hope you find encouragement in The Unashamed Wife's Secret to Healthy Intimacy.WWomen who know me a bit more know that I enjoy my husband. So, when I confessed a while ago that I was struggling a bit in that area, it was met with surprise…maybe shock. And I felt a bit disappointed about that.  Because that was an indication that what I have been through has been misunderstood.  Or there was a misconception that the level of intimacy I’ve enjoyed with my husband came easily to us…to me.      Read More

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10 Comforting Scripture Verses for the Broken Heart

I remember sitting in that group of women staring at the few objects on the coffee table.  Each woman taking her turn sharing which object was most like her heart at that point.  I don’t remember all of the objects that sat on that table. Only one object has remained in my memory.  The one thing that reminded me of my heart then.  A cracked glass lantern.  Shattered pieces put together carefully, but still incredibly fragile.  Any slight mishandling would crumble the frail lantern.  I think about that lantern today because that is the condition of my heart yet again.  Broken.  Shattered.  In a state of grief.  Maybe that’s where you are, too.  If so, here are 10 Comforting Scripture Verses for the Broken Heart to help heal your precious heart.

The healing balm for the broken heart is the promises of God found in His word. Here are 10 Comforting Scripture Verses for the Broken Heart.

Last week, the Christian blogging community was hit with devastating news.  Heart-breaking news of the death of one of the most inspiring and encouraging bloggers out there; Mandy Kelly of Worshipful Living.  She, along with her husband and two youngest children perished in a horrific house fire.  Mandy and Scott’s two teenaged children survived along with Scott’s mother.      

Broken

Because Mandy brought the hope of Jesus to so many all over the world, the news of her death has left many hearts shattered.  We know where she is.  And we rejoice with her, knowing she is exactly where her heart longs to be…at the feet of Jesus.  But our hearts are still broken.  We are still broken.  Because we loved her dearly.  And I know that if she could, she would point all of us to Jesus through our grief.  She would remind us of the promises in God’s word.  So, that’s what I’m going to do today.

God’s heart breaks, too.  He understands.

The Lord is near…even in times of brokenness.     

Psalm 34:18 The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.

My Healer

He heals our broken hearts.  He tenderly wraps our wounds in bandages.  

Psalm 147:3   He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.

My Strength

My heart will break.  It will break because I have loved.  Sometimes I want to avoid loving others, opening myself to hurt again because it leads to a broken heart at some point in some way.  But, I cannot allow my heart to dictate my love (no, don’t ‘follow your heart’).  I can’t rely on my heart.  My heart will fail.  My Father is the strength of my heart.    

Psalm 73:26  My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart forever.

My Peace

My heart is troubled.  Troubled with grief.  Afraid.  “What if…” comes knocking.  I must hand my anxious heart over to Jesus and receive His peace.  Even if it means doing this over and over again several times a day.

John 14:27 Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.

My Helper

In my brokenness, He promises to remain.  Always.  He is my helper.  

Hebrews 13:5-6  For He has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” So that we may boldly say, “The Lord is my helper, and I will not fear what man shall do to me.”

My Savior

One day…no more tears…no more death.  My broken heart will be completely whole.  I can’t wait for that day.  This is what our friend Mandy sees now.  She is singing and dancing in worship to her Savior.  One day I will join her.

Revelation 21:4  He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.

My Rest

I am weak.  So very weak.  But it is in my weakness that Christ shines brightly. I rely on His strength instead of my own.  I’m so thankful that I don’t have to do this alone.  I don’t have to muster up the strength to put my broken heart back together.  In fact, I have learned that the times I have tried to do just that is when I make a big mess of everything and I end up building a wall around the broken shards of my heart.  His power and grace rests upon me…and brings my broken heart to rest.     

2 Corinthians 12:9  And He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. 

My Steadfastness

Not only is God beside me, never leaving me or forsaking me.  But, He is also ahead of me, making a way for me.  He directs my path, my steps.  Even in the darkest moments, He is with me.  In the tears.  In the sadness.  And in the grief.  All the time.

Deuteronomy 31:8  Do not be afraid or discouraged, for the LORD will personally go ahead of you. He will be with you; he will neither fail you nor abandon you. 

My Comforter

Oh, to know that I can come to my Savior for rest.  My heart is heavy.  So, so heavy.  And that’s ok.  My Healer is gentle and His heart is broken right along with mine.  Our hearts are broken together.  He shares in the grief.  He is moved by my grief.  

Matthew 11:28-30  “Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.  Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.  “For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”  

My Truth

The last verse that will help bring comfort and healing to the broken heart is the one where Paul instructs us on what we ought to think about.  Thinking about such good things…things that are wonderful and lovely…will soothe and calm our shattered, hurting hearts.  

Philippians 4:8 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

Beautiful Fractures

I think about that cracked glass lantern again.  I realize just how beautiful it looked when the tealight candle inside of it was lit.  The soft, gentle glow radiated through the cracks in the most amazing way.  The soothing gleam reminds me of the truth of how Jesus shines brilliantly and beautifully through our cracks and fractures.  What others would normally throw into the trash, He restores for His purpose.  And the broken heart is precious to Him.  Because that’s what He uses to bring even more broken hearts to Himself.  

A Reminder

Do you need these beautiful reminders today, too?  If so, I made this printable for you.  Simply download, print and post wherever you will see it every day.

10 Comforting Scripture Verses for the Broken Heart

Printable for my blog post 10 Comforting Scripture Verses for the Broken Heart.


The healing balm for the broken heart is the promises of God found in His word. Here are 10 Comforting Scripture Verses for the Broken Heart.

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How I am Having Christ-Centered Easter Decorations

I love spring! Especially since moving into our new home about a year and a half ago.  We took possession of our beautiful new home in the fall after viewing it a couple of times in late summer.  When the following spring came, I was in for a delightful surprise with all of the gorgeous flowers that popped up in the back yard (see photos at bottom of this post)!  I always had huge, fresh bouquets of flowers!  This year, I am in full anticipation of the snow finally melting and seeing those bright colorful blossoms appear.  Here is How I am Having Christ-Centered Easter Decorations.

Are you looking for appealing ways to decorate your home for Easter? Are you looking for Christ-centered resources? How I am Having Christ-Centered Easter Decorations.

In my anticipation of spring, I am getting into full on decorating for Easter!  Spring and Easter represent New Life for me…especially since I remember that season of my life when I thought winter was never going to end.  I’m talking about both in a spiritual aspect as well as in the physical world. Read More

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Cultivating the Heart of a Daughter

You know when you think God wants you to do something but you aren’t sure if it’s really Him?  Like maybe you’re a tad crazy (or a lot crazy?).  Yeah…that’s been me many times!  And this time is no exception!  An online course – a full and busy online course – is a CRAZY idea!  But, here we are.  Me and my daughter.  Recording videos.  Sharing our hearts.  Digging into scripture.  What a journey it has been so far!  This is Cultivating the Heart of a Daughter.

Are you wanting to help your daughter draw closer to God? Do you wish your relationship with her was deeper? This course will help in both of those areas! Cultivating the Heart of a Daughter. Affiliate opportunity!

Last year, I had the idea to write a book about the heart of a daughter.  I had an outline of what I wanted to include – a clean heart, a forgiving heart, a kind heart…and 17 more ideas.  I jotted down notes and ideas and then saved it onto my hard drive.  It got pushed to the side.  Almost forgotten about.  

Until… Read More

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How Jesus Was The Perfect Ransom

I sat in my La-Z-Boy recliner, Bible in my lap,  tears running down my cheeks.  “Why couldn’t I open this book?  This book I love so much?”  I felt like a failure.  Like a bad Christian.  But I was doubting everything.  I was doubting His love for me.  Did He even care about me?  Did He notice me?  My broken heart?  Or my tears?  I wish so much that someone came and spoke truth to my heart.  Yes, my husband did…every day.  But he was the only one.  What a difference it would have made if someone came and reassured me about How Jesus Was The Perfect Ransom and because of that, my Heavenly Father loved me more than I ever knew.

I doubted His love. I believed He didn’t want to see me…He can’t be bothered with my broken heart. Why didn’t someone tell me How Jesus Was The Perfect Ransom for my brokenness? My tears? My heart? All of me?

Last year, I did a study of Isaiah 53 through Busy, Busy Mamas Bible Study.  If you are looking for a simple Bible study that gets you deep into His word but doesn’t take a super long time, then check out the studies Pam has.  I’ve done a few of them and I have found them to be incredibly valuable.  She involves the kids, too – which I love.  Read More

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Are You Offering Life? Or are you sitting in a puddle?

She was so distraught, in such deep sorrow that she wasn’t even able to eat.  Her husband always served her the choicest cut of meat during the feast for the yearly sacrifice.  For he loved her greatly and favored her over his second wife even though she wasn’t able to give him what he always hoped for – a son.  This was a very dark time in her life.

I’ve been there, too.  But in a different way.  I’ve been in such deep sorrow that I wasn’t able to eat from the word of God.  I know I wasn’t offering life – how could I?  I wasn’t even living myself.  And now, I wonder about you?  Are You Offering Life?  Or Are You Sitting in a Puddle? 

Sometimes when we are so caught up in our own filth, we get stuck in the puddle of life. When that happens, then we can't be used by God to breathe life into others. Are You Offering Life?

Maybe you know exactly what I’m talking about.  Maybe you are there now.  In that dark place.  And you haven’t eaten in so long – your soul has not been satisfied with the choice meat of the word of God. Read More

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Freedom For The Over-Responsible Woman

I was frustrated, fed up and just plain, old mad.  The family trip we had anticipated to be fun and exciting was turning out to be a nightmare.  One kid had a bladder infection, making frequent washroom stops a must. Another had athlete’s foot that was aggravated by walking around the outlet mall (and I really, REALLY wanted to take a look in that Donna Karan shop!).  The third had a medical condition that was not under control and it made going anywhere extremely challenging (BTW – sometimes Google does have better solutions than doctors!).

The combination of these 3 problems forced us to head back to the car before I was ready.  I sat in my seat grumbling and complaining, making it known just how frustrated and mad I was.

And then I heard a little voice behind me.  “Mommy, I am so sorry I made you mad.”

The conviction made my heart sink.  I was all too familiar with what was happening because the same thing happened to me for many, many years – actually, it never really ended.

Do you often feel responsible for the feelings, actions and behavior of other people? If so, you might be an over-responsible person. Here is Freedom For The Over-Responsible Woman.

The Curse Of Over-Responsibility

Being an over-responsible person enables spiritual bondage.  Taking on the responsibilities of other people is not spiritually healthy.  But it seems to occur more often than anyone would like to admit.  Because we are Christians, we are expected to be doormats for boundaryless people to wipe their muddy boots on.  Or we become so accustomed to outbursts of rage we are afraid to even believe that we are not responsible for that person’s anger. Read More

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