5 Romantic Christmas Gifts For Your Husband

In the last few years, it has grown more and more difficult to buy gifts for my husband.¬† Gifts is not his love language, it’s not mine, either (he likes to say mine is ‘quality touch’ – I think he made that up ūüėČ It’s a mix of quality time and touch).¬† But I digress…and I’m more than happy to accept quality touch from him.¬† Last year, I gave him a couple of the BEST gifts I have ever given to him…I know because one made him grin (for days) and the other made him cry his eyes wet for some strange reason.¬† I’m searching for a few special gifts for him this year, again.¬† And here are my top¬†5 Romantic Christmas Gifts For Your Husband.¬† Enjoy!

Looking for some unique and romantic gifts for your hubby this Christmas? Then you’ve come to the right place! Here are 5 Romantic Christmas Gifts For Your Husband.

#1 – Make Him Grin

This is the gift that made him grin for days.¬† I had to give it to him on Christmas Eve when the kids were not around…if you know what I mean!¬† This is a gift that keeps giving throughout the year.¬† You know those monthly or quarterly subscription boxes???¬† Yeah, it’s like that…but you put the subscription together every month!¬† And it’s not just ANY subscription box…it is a sexy one.¬† Just for you and him.¬† I got the great idea from the Dating Divas site.¬† I purchased their kit that included printables, ideas for things to include in the box, and games.¬†¬†

Sexy Subscription Box from The Dating Divas
#2 – Make His Eyes Wet

Are you dying to know what got my guy emotional?  It was my printable 101 Reasons Why I Love You.  I printed it off and wrote 101 reasons why I love him so much.  Some were serious like how he stood by me through the roughest journeys of my life.  Some were funny.  And some were sexy.  Others were me being thankful for the things he does.  This book is free with the purchase of my love notes for your hubby printable Рanother great gift idea!  Click on either image to purchase.

#3 – 12 Wonderful Dates

Another wonderful idea that I have done is giving a “Year of Dates” to my guy on Christmas day.¬† I came up with 12 date ideas (see free printable below for ideas).¬† An envelope or box held each date idea, depending upon the size of inclusions.¬† I also made sure we had everything we needed (or most things) to go on that date.¬† This includes gift cards to restaurants or stores, cash, etc.¬†¬†

year of dates ideas

If you are extra adventurous, you can do 52 dates for the year Рone for each week.  Not all of us can do that, so you can pare it down to two a month, too, if you wish.

52 Date Night Ideas for Two | thedatingdivas.com

#4 – Take the Challenge

I’m going for the challenge this year…7 days of sex challenge!¬† What guy wouldn’t want that?!?!¬† 7 days of guaranteed sex.¬† When do we start?¬† We can thank the Dating Divas again for this sexy idea.¬† I love it.¬† And I love that they are FOR marriage!¬†¬†

7 days to a closer, stronger and HOTTER relationship- Are you up for the challenge?

#5 – Countdown!

Who says gifts have to be given on Christmas morning?  Another idea I am going to try this year is a Christmas countdown for my guy.  I love this idea!  I can surprise him every day with a compliment card, an act of service, or a date idea.  

I just put together my countdown and I am IMPRESSED!¬† So many wonderful ideas!¬† I love it – and I know he’ll love it, too.¬† PS – don’t worry if you are ‘late’ with this countdown.¬† Just double up on some days or start on whatever day we are on today.¬†
spouse christmas ideas


For an added bonus this year, I’m also adding 12 Daytz of Christmas and Reindeer Games…MMHMMM…(for some reason, this link isn’t working properly.¬† Use any of the Dating Diva links above and type in the title and you’ll get there.¬† That’s what I did.¬† Or look under the “Christmas” section.)

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Looking for some unique and romantic gifts for your hubby this Christmas? Then you’ve come to the right place! Here are 5 Romantic Christmas Gifts For Your Husband.

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4 Essential Steps To Become One Flesh in Marriage ~ Guest Post

My youngest daughter has a knitted circular blanket she’s had since she was a baby. ¬†This blanket is well-loved and well-used.¬† Last year, I noticed it unraveling in several places.¬† If I didn’t do something about it right away, that blanket would soon be a pile of crinkled yarn. ¬†As I repaired each hole, I was reminded of becoming one Flesh in marriage.

Each stitch in the blanket is dependent upon the stitches surrounding it.  

If one unravels, it sets off a ‘run’ or a hole in the piece. ¬†The knitter has to deal with that unstitched stitch right away…or have a bigger problem on her hands. ¬†Knitting takes a lot of time…and even more patience. ¬†This is also true in marriage.

4 Essential Steps To Become One Flesh in Marriage

Have you ever wondered what it means to be one flesh with your spouse? Or how to become one flesh? What does that even look like? In this post, I share 4 Essential Steps To Become One Flesh in Marriage.

I am guest posting over at Hope & Joy in Christ. ¬†Head on over to Tiffany’s site to read the rest of this post. ¬†You can also¬†enter the giveaway for my Valiant & Biblical 5-Day Bible study for wives.

Have you ever wondered what it means to be one flesh with your spouse? Or how to become one flesh? What does that even look like? In this post, I share 4 Essential Steps To Become One Flesh in Marriage.



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9 Distinctive Qualities of Godly Leadership

“I’m going to do what I want to and I don’t care what you think!” ¬†Yeah, those words came out of my husband’s mouth during an argument early on in our marriage. ¬†He’ll be the first to tell you that he wasn’t exactly Prince Charming back then. ¬†Really, we both were pretty much a hot mess. ¬†When we talk about those days, Marcus will bring the conversation right around to what the root of the problem was. He wasn’t a believer. ¬†He was not leading his family in Godliness. ¬†In fact, he was going in the opposite direction. ¬†His view of ‘leading’ his family was worldly leadership. ¬†Leadership that demands its own way. ¬†Thankfully, that all changed in 2004. ¬†Here are 9 Distinctive Qualities of Godly Leadership that my husband has displayed in our marriage and family.

What does it mean to lead your family in Godliness? How does a husband lead? Here are 9 Distinctive Qualities of Godly Leadership that I see in my husband.

You know that thing I said my husband said several years ago? ¬†Well, he wouldn’t fathom saying such a thing now. ¬†Why? ¬†Because he has grown into a Godly husband. He has come to a strong understanding of what it means to lead his family in Godliness. ¬†And guess what the fruit of that is? ¬†A wife who joyfully submits to her husband. ¬†Oh, yes, I know, Scripture doesn’t say for us wives to submit just when we feel like it or when it’s easy. ¬†BUT…when your husband displays Godly leadership for his family, it sure makes the submission thing a whole lot more enjoyable! ¬† Read More

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Why I Do Go to Bed Angry (Sometimes)

I was angry. ¬†I was deeply hurt. ¬†And it was late. ¬†He knew how I felt and yet, he still didn’t apologize. ¬†Instead, he was getting ready for bed. My frustration elevated. ¬†The tears rolled down my cheeks. ¬†I hate this. ¬†And it didn’t look like anything was going to get resolved tonight. ¬†I started to get ready for bed, too. ¬†Guilt washed over me as I brushed my teeth and contemplated that popular marriage ‘rule’. ¬†“Never go to bed angry”. ¬†Right. ¬†Now not only am I upset, but I am breaking this cardinal rule! ¬†My marriage is doomed! ¬†Or is it? ¬†Early on in my marriage, I worried about breaking popular advice such as this one. ¬†But then I realized that just like any clich√© advice, it must be taken with a grain of salt. ¬†This is¬†Why I Do Go to Bed Angry (Sometimes).

The popular clich√© advice for newlyweds is usually ‚Äúnever go to bed angry ‚Äď stay up and work it out‚ÄĚ. While those offering the advice probably have good intentions, this advice isn‚Äôt always practical or wise ‚Äď and really, if you‚Äôve been married any length of time, you have probably gone to bed angry a time or two! Here is Why I Do Go to Bed Angry (Sometimes)

Fighting with my husband is one of the things I dislike most in my life. ¬†It doesn’t occur very often, so it isn’t something either of us is used to. ¬†We are blessed to have a marriage where arguments and pain are not a normal occurrence. ¬†But, we are both human and we get angry sometimes. ¬†And sometimes we do go to bed angry. ¬†Maybe this sounds like your marriage. ¬†Maybe you fight sometimes and go to bed angry knowing it goes against that marriage rule. ¬†But, it works for you and your hubby. ¬†It turns out to be a good thing. ¬†And guess what? ¬†That’s OK. ¬†

In The Quiet

When I go to bed angry, I use that time before falling asleep to talk to God about what is happening. ¬†When I am in the heat of anger, I don’t think to quiet myself before the Lord. ¬†I am too busy fighting and trying to make myself heard. ¬†My focus is on me. ¬†My wants and needs. ¬†

But when I am quiet and conversing with my Heavenly Father, my anger disperses and I feel His peace. ¬†It is during this time that He is able to speak to my heart. ¬†I am more open to receiving His conviction if I have wronged my husband in any way, including thinking bad thoughts about him. ¬†During this quiet time with God, He is able to give me His love for my husband and I can pray for God’s solution to the problem and wisdom in how to deal with it – wisdom for me and for Marcus.


When I am tired, my emotions tend to be more sensitive and unreasonable. ¬†Not really ideal conditions for working out a problem, right? ¬†With some rest, I am better able to think about the issue. ¬†I’ve had time to think and process the situation. ¬†

Do you need time to process, too?  I find the extra time helpful for me to see things clearly and to deal with any rooted issues I might have.


I’ve gotten into the habit of asking God to renew and revive my love for my husband. ¬†You see, my husband and I have been through a lot over the years. ¬†We’ve had ample opportunities to prove the scripture verse that says 2 shall become 1. ¬†We’ve had to. ¬†

Because of events that have occurred in our extended family, Marcus has had to be my defender, my protector. ¬†I’ve had to rest in his strength and protection many, many times. ¬†

He has proven to me time and again that his heart is for me.  That he has my best interest at heart and he would never intentionally hurt me.  I have resolved to not allow disagreements to hinder my love for him.  

And sometimes I need the night to seek the Lord and ask Him to remind me of my love for my husband.  It always works;)

Shut My Mouth

Sometimes God needs me to keep my mouth shut so that He can deal with my husband. ¬†If I am blabbing on and on about how I am right, then I don’t leave room for God to speak to Marcus’ heart. ¬†My husband needs that quiet to seek the Lord as well. ¬†Staying up all night trying to work things out just might interfere with what God wants to teach Marcus (and me). ¬† ¬† ¬†

Always Right?

Just because a piece of advice is popular doesn’t mean it’s always right – or even just right for that given situation. ¬†If you go to bed angry, don’t seek the Lord and then don’t try to resolve the problem the following day (or ever), then yes, you might want to stick to the¬†clich√© advice of staying up until the issue is resolved – but still, seek the Lord!¬†

Maybe, like me, you need that time to process, pray, and listen. ¬†Just because a piece of advice is popular and touted by almost everyone without much thought or reason, doesn’t mean it is the best advice for your marriage or for that specific issue.

Walking Where?

Walking in the Spirit requires us to seek the Lord for His counsel instead of worldly¬†clich√© advice. ¬†Instead of reacting to a situation, I turn to the Lord for wisdom and discernment. ¬†Doing this has helped me to see if there is something else bothering my husband or if I am ‘over-reacting’ because of some unhealed root in my own life. ¬†Being lead by the Spirit has really helped me to know when to keep talking it out and when to remain quiet (as hard as that is sometimes!). ¬†¬†

Do you go to bed angry? ¬†Have you been walking in the Spirit? ¬†Do you allow the Holy Spirit to guide your conversations? ¬†Are you and your husband ‘one’?

If you have enjoyed this post, you will love my Bible study on marriage coming up in the fall! ¬†I will be leading a study through Proverbs 31. ¬†Sign up for my newsletter so you don’t miss out on the promotional price of this study. ¬†

The popular clich√© advice for newlyweds is usually ‚Äúnever go to bed angry ‚Äď stay up and work it out‚ÄĚ. While those offering the advice probably have good intentions, this advice isn‚Äôt always practical or wise ‚Äď and really, if you‚Äôve been married any length of time, you have probably gone to bed angry a time or two! Here is Why I Do Go to Bed Angry (Sometimes)

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What It Means For A Husband To Love His Wife

We had barely been married a year when he said those terrible, heart-breaking words. ¬†I knew something was ‘off’ in the weeks previous. ¬†He wouldn’t touch me anymore. ¬†He barely spoke to me – at least not the way he used to. ¬†Sleeping in the same bed was like sleeping with a stranger. ¬†And forget about any kind of intimacy. ¬†It just wasn’t happening. ¬†I was hurt, lonely, and headed for trouble. ¬†We both were. ¬†And those words confirmed that what I was sensing was true. ¬†So early in our marriage, neither one of us knew what love meant. And because Marcus wasn’t a believer, he certainly had no idea What It Means For A Husband To Love His Wife.

Sometimes, we get a warped view of the marriage relationship. We excuse bad behavior because we don’t know what love really means. But, if we truly did understand how to love, so many more marriages would be healthy and whole. What It Means For A Husband To Love His Wife

I gathered my courage and asked my husband what was going on.  He responded with:

“I love you but I’m not in love with you”. ¬† ¬†

Nice, hey? ¬†Just what a new bride wants to hear. ¬†This is what I call “Hollywood Love” – the fluff we see in movies. ¬† Read More

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Top Sex Secrets From A Work Of Grace

Sometimes, we all need a little ‘pick me up’ in the bedroom. ¬†Something that will help fuel the flames, get the blood flowing, and get us ‘in the mood’. ¬†Especially since that ‘mood’ doesn’t always suddenly appear. ¬†And let’s face it, there are seasons in life when that the only action our bedroom sees is us kicking our hubbies in the middle of the night when he starts snoring. ¬†**I’m not the only one who does that, right?? ¬†So, here are some of my favorite resources to help fire up the bedroom with my Top Sex Secrets From A Work Of Grace.

It is easy to fall into a rut when it comes to bedroom activities. But it‚Äôs also easy to get out of with the right ‚Äėtools‚Äô! Here are my Top Sex Secrets From A Work Of Grace. BTW ‚Äď life is short‚Ķbe purposeful in having fun with your hubby:0


No, these are not scandalous websites.  Just a few ladies I know who regularly offer support for wives in the bedroom. Read More

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Is Your Contentious Attitude Affecting Your Sex Life?

Years ago, I struggled with anger. ¬†I was an angry mom, and angry wife…just a plain old angry woman. ¬†And this had a huge negative impact on my bedroom activities. ¬†I had to deal with the root of my anger before I would see any improvement in any other area of my life, including intimacy. ¬†The condition of our hearts, our attitudes, and how we treat others has a direct effect on what our bedroom activity, or the lack thereof, looks like. ¬†The effect is for good…or for worse. ¬†So, ladies, is your contentious attitude affecting your sex life? ¬†¬†

What does your attitude have to do with intimacy? Lots! If you have a bad attitude, it will creep into every area of your life and marriage, including your sex life! But you do have a choice on what to do with it. Is Your Contentious Attitude Affecting Your Sex Life?

This Angry Woman

There was this one time when this angry mom exploded at her kids. ¬†I just went “off the grid” – saying things I knew I’d deeply regret later on. ¬†But I just kept carrying that angry spirit around and I made sure everyone felt it. ¬†I was completely unreasonable and my behavior was appalling. ¬†I am even embarrassed to be sharing this with you. ¬†Really, it was shameful.¬† Read More

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Is It Really My Duty As His Wife?

Quite a few years ago, a younger friend was preparing the final details of her wedding plans. ¬†With a playful grin, I mentioned to her that two of my favorite verses in the Bible was 1 Corinthians 7: 3 & 4. ¬†She agreed with me and we had a good chuckle about it. ¬†However, over the years, I have come to see how this little passage has been taken out of context and the original meaning that Paul intended. ¬†This¬†“advice” on marital intimacy is seriously lacking. ¬†Sure, maybe it sounds good at first, but when I really thought about it, the advice just didn’t sit well. ¬†Perhaps you’ve fallen into the trap of this ‘advice’ as well. ¬†Are you believing the lie of being intimate with your husband in the name of duty? ¬†Are you wondering “Is It Really My Duty As His Wife?”

Have you been met with the response "It's your duty as his wife" when you have expressed a struggle with intimacy in marriage? Me, too. More times than necessary, that's for sure. In this post, I address that question...Is It Really My Duty As His Wife?

You’ve probably heard this ‘advice’ – or maybe you’ve even given it to a friend. ¬†¬†
Scripture says my body belongs to my husband, therefore I should not deprive him. ¬†It doesn’t matter if I don’t ‘feel like it’, I should give it to him anyway because it is my duty as his wife.

**SIGH** Read More

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The Unashamed Wife’s Secret to Healthy Intimacy

I love having the intimate relationship with my husband. ¬†BUT…it hasn’t always been easy. ¬†We’ve had our rough patches.¬† I have struggled with several issues when it comes to this area of marriage (Ok, there have been many issues that bled into various areas of marriage!).¬† Thankfully, those battles aren’t the end of the story.¬† The book hasn’t closed yet.¬† The epic romance continues – and it continues because of one little secret.¬† And I want to share that secret with you…The Unashamed Wife’s Secret to Healthy Intimacy.

Are you wishing for healthier intimacy with your husband? Are you feeling defeated in this area? Like "Is this all there is? Why is it so much easier for others? Why can't I be the wife my husband needs?" I hope you find encouragement in The Unashamed Wife's Secret to Healthy Intimacy.

Intimacy in marriage isn’t something I often talk about on my blog. ¬†But, today, I’d like to chat about it a bit. ¬†Hopefully, that’s ok with you.

Women who know me a bit more know that I enjoy my husband. So, when I confessed a while ago that I was struggling a bit in that area, it was met with surprise…maybe shock. And I felt a bit disappointed about that. ¬†Because that was an indication that what I have been through has been misunderstood. ¬†Or there was a misconception that the level of intimacy I’ve enjoyed with my husband came easily to us…to me. ¬† ¬†¬† Read More

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6 Sure Ways To Make Your Marriage Difficult

The tears rolled down my cheeks. ¬†We were fighting…again. ¬†I don’t even remember how it started – just how it ended. ¬†When I walked down that aisle, I didn’t expect marriage to be this hard. ¬†I wondered if I had made a mistake in marrying him. ¬†Maybe he was Mr. Wrong instead of Mr. Right. ¬†Surely someone else would have been better. ¬†Right? ¬†Probably not. ¬†It wasn’t until several years later that I realized why this was improbable. ¬†I had to learn a lot…thankfully, when you don’t have someone to teach you these things, God uses His Holy Spirit to teach us the¬†truth. ¬†What did I learn? ¬†I am sure you are anxious to find out. ¬†Well, here are 6 Sure Ways To Make Your Marriage Difficult.

6 Sure Ways To Make Your Marriage Difficult

I wish I had known these things when Marcus and I were first married. ¬†Yes, we did go to marriage counseling, but I don’t remember the pastor talking about these kinds of things. ¬†The things I had to learn ‘on my own’ years later. ¬†Things I had to learn from experience (AKA – the hard way). ¬†When I learned these things¬†and applied them to my life and my marriage, Marcus and I grew stronger. ¬†And when he started doing the same thing – WOW! ¬†That’s when we became unstoppable! ¬†OK, maybe not to that extreme. ¬†But we do have a solid marriage because we both work hard to avoid the following 6¬†things. Read More

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