Top Sex Secrets From A Work Of Grace

Sometimes, we all need a little ‘pick me up’ in the bedroom.  Something that will help fuel the flames, get the blood flowing, and get us ‘in the mood’.  Especially since that ‘mood’ doesn’t always suddenly appear.  And let’s face it, there are seasons in life when that the only action our bedroom sees is us kicking our hubbies in the middle of the night when he starts snoring.  **I’m not the only one who does that, right??  So, here are some of my favorite resources to help fire up the bedroom with my Top Sex Secrets From A Work Of Grace.

It is easy to fall into a rut when it comes to bedroom activities. But it’s also easy to get out of with the right ‘tools’! Here are my Top Sex Secrets From A Work Of Grace. BTW – life is short…be purposeful in having fun with your hubby:0


No, these are not scandalous websites.  Just a few ladies I know who regularly offer support for wives in the bedroom. Read More

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Is Your Contentious Attitude Affecting Your Sex Life?

Years ago, I struggled with anger.  I was an angry mom, and angry wife…just a plain old angry woman.  And this had a huge negative impact on my bedroom activities.  I had to deal with the root of my anger before I would see any improvement in any other area of my life, including intimacy.  The condition of our hearts, our attitudes, and how we treat others has a direct effect on what our bedroom activity, or the lack thereof, looks like.  The effect is for good…or for worse.  So, ladies, is your contentious attitude affecting your sex life?   

What does your attitude have to do with intimacy? Lots! If you have a bad attitude, it will creep into every area of your life and marriage, including your sex life! But you do have a choice on what to do with it. Is Your Contentious Attitude Affecting Your Sex Life?

This Angry Woman

There was this one time when this angry mom exploded at her kids.  I just went “off the grid” – saying things I knew I’d deeply regret later on.  But I just kept carrying that angry spirit around and I made sure everyone felt it.  I was completely unreasonable and my behavior was appalling.  I am even embarrassed to be sharing this with you.  Really, it was shameful.  Read More

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Is It Really My Duty As His Wife?

Quite a few years ago, a younger friend was preparing the final details of her wedding plans.  With a playful grin, I mentioned to her that two of my favorite verses in the Bible was 1 Corinthians 7: 3 & 4.  She agreed with me and we had a good chuckle about it.  However, over the years, I have come to see how this little passage has been taken out of context and the original meaning that Paul intended.  This “advice” on marital intimacy is seriously lacking.  Sure, maybe it sounds good at first, but when I really thought about it, the advice just didn’t sit well.  Perhaps you’ve fallen into the trap of this ‘advice’ as well.  Are you believing the lie of being intimate with your husband in the name of duty?  Are you wondering “Is It Really My Duty As His Wife?”

Have you been met with the response "It's your duty as his wife" when you have expressed a struggle with intimacy in marriage? Me, too. More times than necessary, that's for sure. In this post, I address that question...Is It Really My Duty As His Wife?

You’ve probably heard this ‘advice’ – or maybe you’ve even given it to a friend.   
Scripture says my body belongs to my husband, therefore I should not deprive him.  It doesn’t matter if I don’t ‘feel like it’, I should give it to him anyway because it is my duty as his wife.

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The Unashamed Wife’s Secret to Healthy Intimacy

I love having the intimate relationship with my husband.  BUT…it hasn’t always been easy.  We’ve had our rough patches.  I have struggled with several issues when it comes to this area of marriage (Ok, there have been many issues that bled into various areas of marriage!).  Thankfully, those battles aren’t the end of the story.  The book hasn’t closed yet.  The epic romance continues – and it continues because of one little secret.  And I want to share that secret with you…The Unashamed Wife’s Secret to Healthy Intimacy.

Are you wishing for healthier intimacy with your husband? Are you feeling defeated in this area? Like "Is this all there is? Why is it so much easier for others? Why can't I be the wife my husband needs?" I hope you find encouragement in The Unashamed Wife's Secret to Healthy Intimacy.

Intimacy in marriage isn’t something I often talk about on my blog.  But, today, I’d like to chat about it a bit.  Hopefully, that’s ok with you.

Women who know me a bit more know that I enjoy my husband. So, when I confessed a while ago that I was struggling a bit in that area, it was met with surprise…maybe shock. And I felt a bit disappointed about that.  Because that was an indication that what I have been through has been misunderstood.  Or there was a misconception that the level of intimacy I’ve enjoyed with my husband came easily to us…to me.      Read More

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When You Need To Rekindle The Romance

I have noticed that there are some days where I just need to ‘connect’ with my man…if you know what I mean.  I find that I am in a much better mood when my needs have been met.  I am more relaxed and at peace.  I crave that special connection with Marcus because it is so intimate.  I don’t think God would have it any other way.  He created sex for more than only procreation.  It is a sacred act between a husband and wife – and I believe it is deeply spiritual.  Our hearts connect and we are as physically close as to people can get.  We are both vulnerable to each other.  But sometimes life happens and this gets put on the back burner.  We lose our passion.  We are tired.  We don’t feel sexy enough…the list could go on and on.  Trust me, I’ve had my fair share of demons to overcome in this area with childhood sexual abuse and the lie of not being ‘sexy’.  Let’s talk about When You Need To Rekindle The Romance.

Do you struggle with time for intimacy with your spouse? Or maybe you are just plain tired? When You Need To Rekindle The Romance

When my son was born, this part of life was very difficult.  Without going into too much detail, my son’s shoulders did considerable damage to my body.  Almost 6 months passed by before I was able to do anything without too much pain.  I felt awful about myself and I started to believe that my hubby was so disappointed in me – he was so good to pick up on this and reassure me.  But, ladies, let’s be honest…this area in married life isn’t always a bed of roses 😉  However, this just means that we need to do a bit of work.  Here are a few suggestions that will help.  Read More

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For The Wife Who Doesn’t Feel Sexy

I just sat on the edge of my bed and sobbed.  They didn’t fit right.  The panties he bought me just for him…I looked awful in them.  The sides cut onto my hips in a very unflattering way.  I used to fit this size.  But not now and I felt so ugly because of it.  All I could do was cry.  I was not the sexy wife he thought I was.  This is For The Wife Who Doesn’t Feel Sexy.

We don't always feel sexy, but sometimes the feeling becomes more of a problem and it hinders the health of our marriages. I share my experience and what helped me. I hope it helps your Christian marriage. For The Wife Who Doesn’t Feel Sexy

I wasn’t too sure what to do at that point.  He was going to be in the bedroom in a few minutes and he was expecting me to model these new, barely there panties for him.  It was clear that I had been crying; I couldn’t hide that fact.  And I didn’t want to ruin ‘it’ for him even more.

But I had been struggling with this feeling for quite some time.  Maybe you have been, too.  Just writing this out makes me want to cry because I remember how I felt and my heart breaks to think you know what I am talking about.  I also cry because I see how far God has brought me, I can now see the incredible work of healing He has done in my life.  And He wants to do the same for you. Read More

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